So last year when I was 12, I realized how hairy my legs were. So I asked my mom to shave, but she said "no, I didn't start shaving till I was 27". That's an obvious sign that she doesn't want me to shave, but I really need to and I was gonna ask today, but what if she says no? My mom is a really easy going person, but I don't understand why she won't let me shave. I'm going into 8th grade and ever girl already shaves. Whenever I try talk about it I just don't say anything. I would really like to show off my legs, but I'm too embarrassed. Pleas help!
By ariel.13
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Shaving results in hair growing heavier and quickly back. There are other ways that can achieve the same result but diminishing the disadvantage.
* bleaching the hair... same but isn't so evident.
* waxing strips then adding lemon juice to make it last longer and not grow again so heavy.
My Daughter is grown now and I don't remember when she started shaving her legs. She never asked me just did it and I remember being shocked but I figured it wasn't worth fighting over. My Daughter was strong willed and had a mind of her own. Traits that have served her well as an adult.
A Mother has to pick her battles. LOL I know how things like this can affect your self esteem. I remember asking my Mother for a bra and she said I didn't need one. I couldn't talk to my Mom about a lot of things. I was embarrassed at gym class when I had to undress. Are your friends shaving at your age? I think young girls are maturing a lot faster than when I was a young lady.
Maybe your Mother doesn't understand the impact this has on your self esteem? Also you said you wanted to show off your legs and I understand that. Does your Mother think you dress inappropriately? If that's the case maybe you can meet her half way by compromising. Your Mother is probably sad that you're growing up so fast.
About the only advice I can give you is try to build a good, close relationship with your Mother and maybe she will come to see how much this bothers you. If you're not spending much time with her try to find more time. It's hard being a teenager but it's even harder being a Mother.
I don't think I ever asked my mom but just grabbed a razor and shaved. I do recall getting about a half inch cut which did scar, but no big deal.
Shave them. She'll get over it. Had the same problem with my Mom and people made fun of me. She got over it.
I'm old enough to be a bit older than your mom, and I _still_ remember when I was your age, having the same problem. It was really embarrassing, because I wasn't trying to look sexy or provocative, I just didn't want the nickname of Sasquach among the kids at school!
I must have been 14 before I was actually allowed to do it. I think I tried hair removers like Nair and Neet on my own first, but they didn't work well, although they did at least thin it up a bit. And there was still enough hair left to keep me from getting into trouble... :)
Your mom isn't trying to be mean. She just doesn't want to think of her child becoming an adult. And maybe subconsciously she knows that your not shaving your legs will keep you dressing a bit more demurely than you might otherwise.
My recommendation as an adult is to be open and honest with her. Don't just tell her "everyone else is doing it," as this is a statement that immediately rubs parents the wrong way and makes them worry about raising lemmings.
On the other hand, my recommendation as someone who went through the same thing is that razors are pretty cheap. It isn't that much different than wearing a bra or using deodorant. It is considered a personal hygiene issue by our peers, and at some point the vast majority of us do it, whether our parents make it easy for us, or not.
PS- Shaving your legs does not cause your hair to grow in faster or thicker. That is just a myth. It just feels a little spiky for a while when it is growing back out.
minkuti...you took the words right out of my mouth! I just want to add that Ariel13 I think it's great that you care about what your Mom thinks, that goes a long way to help the communication up between you two! Good luck :)
The next time you go to the store with her, casually pick up some razors and put them in the cart.
Noooooo
I started when I was 12 and I think you should ask her and explain why you want to but if she says no then I would just do it anyway because if you feel uncomfortable about it then you should have the right to shave if you want.
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