I have been married for 9 months. My husband is often leaving his job. He in the teaching profession. I am also in the teaching profession. I have been working at a university for more than 5 years, but he is not able to stick with a job for more than 6 months. He does not take my words. He often abuses me. He has a male ego and is a male chauvinist. His upbringing is not proper.
By Pavithra from Chennai, India
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Google "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" and decide if he's worth staying with.
This man is dangerous and needs counseling. He need to grow up and become a man. He will not change unless he gets help. If he doesn't take the help then you need to get away before you get hurt by him.
You need to deal with your own hopeful future. God hears, God understands and is not stingy with hope. God's love can provides a safe place for your pain. Don't let another person steal your joy and hope. God heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds (Psalm 147:3).
Do not cling to a hope of a bad relationship that will get you knocked down. You are of far greater importance that deserves a kinder future. Jesus is your answer. Seek Him now.
If he exhibits the traits at 2 Ti 3:1-5 the Bible tells us to get away from them. I have found this advise in the Bible 3-4 times, other wise we are told to pray for those who persecute us and to love neighbor as ourselves.
Love is what the Bible is about-why we were created 2. why God sent Jesus forth 3. Jesus teaching us love, patience and humility. The traits at 2 Ti 3:1-5 is the traits of socialpaths or psychopaths. If a love of money is found in these, I have found they do not turn back. These are part of Satan's Demon seed and will be destroyed in the last days. look up socialpaths on the internet.
I am not sure what services you would have available to you in India, but if you were in Canada, I would advise you to try marital counseling. If your husband won't go with you, go by yourself. From what I hear on the media, I get the impression that India is a very chauvinist society. Is divorce an option?
Your husband sounds very immature, and it sounds like he is taking advantage of you. I personally don't have any good ideas of how to get your husband to be a better person; he sounds like something of a lost cause. However, perhaps he will be willing to change, if he actually loves you. Counseling seems like the best option to me, to begin with.
Don't kid yourself by thinking you can change him. Leave him. He is no good for you and would not be a good father. So leave him before you get pregnant.
You are not going to change him. In the end he will drag you down. Sounds like you need to get out while the getting is good.
I'm sorry that you're going through this. I was married to my ex-husband for 20+ years thinking that he would change. He didn't and I divorced him finally because I couldn't endure the abuse anymore. Do yourself a favor..get while the going is good.
Forget it! You can NOT mold and change him, as you should know by now. He will only get worse, if you try. Even jail won't change him for the better.
After 5 - 6 heartbreaks he will mature enough to gradually become better. By then he won't even remember your name. Time to sort your stuff and pack up.
Hi - most responders are from other countries and of course, we have no idea as to what is available to you as far as help or even what your laws may dictate, but you should try to seek counsel from someone near you that can help you find a way to move on as possible.
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