Does anyone know what I should do? I have been seeing this guy for about 6 months and last month we decide to take it a step forward. Now I am pregnant. I am OK with it because he said he will stick by me and I trust him, but I trusted the last guy too and look where that got me. Anyway I was just wondering, should I let him in and keep the baby or push him away and give the baby up? One more kid is going to make my life hard without help. Does anyone know where I can get cheap baby stuff over the web, because I got rid of most of mine?
By mc4lifes from Sydney, NSW
My thought is give the baby up. However, I am wondering with all the posts you have made, having trouble with the kids you already have why in heaven's name even get involved with a guy and then decide to have unprotected sex?
As far as cheap baby stuff goes, you would be further ahead looking for stuff in thrift stores and garage/yard/rummage sales. But being you got rid of most of your stuff, the smart/cheapest thing to do would be give the baby up at birth. In you shoes I would go the abortion way.
I would talk to your close friends and family about your issue. Adoption would be hard, but it can be a blessing to another family.
I am sorry you are in this situation. Can you find a Christian pregnency crisis center near you that could assist you? If you have trouble finding one, try calling to some churches to see if they know of one. There is help available.
God's plan for us is to avoid sex before marriage, this avoids situations like this. However, abortion will not solve your problem, it will only cause guilt and more problems for you in the future. Hang in there, I am sure many prayers will be coming your way upon reading this.
I really have no idea how many previous posts you have made; that doesn't matter to me. First thing I did was pray for you and the baby. Maybe from what I read you are having a hard time, have other children? I adopted my youngest child, he was the answer to many prayers. His mother also had other children, we found had another after he was with me. Either of us regretted the decision. He is joy!
I went to a Christian adoption lawyer, where his mother had been looking for an adoption mom. After I had him, we found we shared the same day, month and year of our births. God is good. I agree to seek out counseling from churches. You can find comfort there, in helping with the baby or finding a home where you will bring something to them that is no less then a miracle.
Good luck, I will keep you in my prayers. Please don't do anything out of fear, other peoples beliefs. You can turn a mistake into something amazing.
Please never choose abortion. Adoption is such a blessing to people wanting, but unable, to become parents the natural way. I love my adopted son and know the world would be a lot less happy of a place without that sweet compassionate child in it.
An unplanned pregnancy can surely bring a lot of pressure. As many times a couple is not ready for it due reasons like financial issues, relationship issues, etc.
