I have been with my husband for 19 years. We have two girls. On a daily basis he is fine. He works and pays the bills. I work, as well, although I don't contribute much to bills.
He only really gets mad over money and me not spending much time with him. When he is mad he yells, screams, calls me horrible names, and accuses me of cheating. He has occasionally thrown things. I do love my husband and I know he loves us too. I told him I was leaving and he apologized for treating me badly and said he knows he can't act like that in front of kids. He knows its hurting them. He says he wants us to be happy and promised to make it right for the kids.
I'm so confused. I don't know if I should believe him and give him one last chance or just take my girls and go. I know if we leave we would be struggling to live. I know that nobody deserves any form of abuse, but if I compromise and help out with bills and spending time with him maybe things will get better. Not sure if I should give up yet or make an effort to help change things.
By EM
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As gently as I can - why do you not spend time with your husband?
No he should NOT yell and call you names! There are two sides though,...and from what you wrote it seems like maybe you can see some responsibility on your part.
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I hope you can work it out - as an adult child of divorce I can tell you the scars only fade, they never really go away completely. Think about it carefully before you make any decisions.
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