My BFF and I had a huge fight. And she doesn't want to be my friend anymore, but I think we could still work it out, but that's not the point. Her birthday party sleepover is soon and she doesn't want me to come anymore. Now I'd have to explain to my parents that she and I aren't the same besties they'd known us to be. And let's just say my parents and I aren't close either. Explaining to my parents about this isn't even an option I'm considering.
And I know all the people who will tell me just to be honest with my parents, but I really can't do that. So please don't tell me to be honest with my parents or something because I can't I just can't.
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Sounds like you have parents as I did. Not my dad, but my mom. You could never talk with her and tell her anything at all. In your case if you can't tell them the truth just say that you are having an issue with 2 or 3 of the girls who are attending the sleepover and you do not feel good being around them. I guess to say they did some really bad things at school to you and this makes you not want to be around them.
This sounds like a sad and frustrating situation on so many levels.
Can you talk to your friend's mom or would that be weird?
I am sad that you can't talk to your parents. Parents can be tough, but they are still your parents.
Since you seem dead set against not talking to then, why not just tell your parents you aren't feeling well the day of the party so you can stay home. Yes, it is not 100% honest and while I do not promote being dishonest to your parents by any stretch of the imagination, I see this as being a "mental health day" needed so you don't have to save face if you don't go to the party.
Mental health is health just like physical health and it sounds like you are depressed and anxious about this situation, which to me qualifies as not feeling well. If your parents push you about why you don't feel well, consider being honest and telling them you are sad about the situation.
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You do not say how old you are but I hope you realize that situations like this are part of life and you will most likely have similar situations like this to deal with in the future. However you handle this may help you work out similar problems later on.
Since you have realized you were in the wrong and have apologized seems to me to say that you are probably a very mature young lady.
The very fact that all of this is causing you anxiety and stress also says that you really want a good solution.
You also do not say how long before the party so we do not know if you still have a few days to find a solution but I hope you will discuss this with your best friend and try to work it out from that end instead of trying to find a 'reason' to tell your parents why you are not going to the party.
Since this seems to be something you have always liked doing - will your parents believe you if you tell them you are 'sick' and do not feel like going to the party?
This being said, please try to talk with your friend as she will have to come up with a reason to tell others why you are not at the party - does she want to tell them the truth or will she have to 'lie'?
I hope you can work out a solution that sits well with you, your best friend and your parents.
I agree, that this is taking its toll on you, to the point that you have anxiety, stress etc. This alone will make you to ill to attend this party. This is a lot of worry for you on both ends. The truth is you are and will feel sick if it does not work out(excuse) !
First of all, this was your friend right? then why would your parents care if your friends anymore? Just tell them you two are taking a break from hanging out.
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