Please need help. I have a 5year old mixed race daughter (she has more of African hair). Her hair is stressing me out and don't know what to do. I am thinking of using texturiser, but really don't want to because of the chemicals.
I have tried almost all hair products to soften hair, but she keeps crying. I bought a hot comb to try stretch it out, but she still cried.
I am currently using Tresemme Mositure plus both shampoo and conditioner as I use them for my own natural hair as well, but don't think it is helping her. I am still using Dark and Lovely detangled spray, but she is still crying.
Please need help because my only option now is to cut her hair really short or use a kid's hair softener (Just for Me, Beautiful Beginnings).
Thanks.
By Emma B
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If it were me I'd probably have her hair done up in tiny braids or cornrows and left that way for as long as possible. Other kids think it's cool and you don't even have to mess with it.
Take her to a hair stylist with experience in her type of hair for recommendations for styling, conditioning, etc.
Hi. If you are working with dry hair, you could use a spray bottle to spritz her hair with water. Then put a nickel or quarter size amount of conditioner in you hand - rub hands together and then finger comb through the damp hair. A more "natural" option that you could try is use a dime size amount of organic coconut oil in you palm; rub palms together to liquidfy and finger comb through her hair.
FYI - Walmart has a section in their haircare area that has products specifically for african american hair and skin. One of the products they carry is by Africa's Best Ultimate Herbal Oil. I am white/caucasian and have sensitive skin. I love this product and use it on my skin and in my hair due to brittleness. Be careful with amount as a little goes a long way in the hair - pea size or less.
My advice as a woman of color: love your daughter's hair! Please please love her hair. It can be a struggle to take care of until she can by herself, but it'll do wonders for her self-image when she can be proud of her natural hair!
Thanks guys.
I have tried conrows and braids. Its great but have to loose the braids one at a time and comb each one because it tangles quickly.
I make her hair into big braids about 10 myself because I have tried at least 3 hair stylist for her hair type and the front of her hair started breaking so I decided to make her hair myself. I will try all that advised and see if it helps.
Hey Emma,
Being mixed, I've been through it myself with not knowing what to do with my hair. My mom relaxed my hair when younger to better deal with it's thickness (she relaxed her hair too, so she knew how to style it better when straight). I recently chopped off my hair almost a year ago to get back to being naturally curly and learning to love my hair as-is. Please do NOT relax her hair or use chemicals. You both will appreciate it in the long run as it'll only cause more breakage. There are many curly girls out there who support each other and many tips/tricks on curly blogs and youtube for sure for visuals. You can check my blog for some tips @ nattycurls.blogspot.ca.
One tip, before attempting to work with her hair, try spritzing with water (moisture) then adding oils (olive oil, coconut oil, etc) to soften. Leave that in until you can almost run your fingers through her hair without hurting her. Then wash it out with SULFATE-FREE shampoo or use a cleansing cream. You could also just rinse with conditioner (aka co-washing). Detangle her hair when wet, after adding lots of leave-in conditioner, trust me if her hair is thick it will soak it all up! Try giving her about 4 braids or so (more if her hair is shorter), leave it overnight, then when dry, undo the braids. This will give her a wavy look and her hair will be more manageable.
Hope this helps as a starter, but start googling and checking youtube/blogs. There is SO much information out there to help you out :) Goodluck on your/her hair journey!
Use a au natural line free of sulfates I use the Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Shine line by Shea Moisture in my daughters hair! It's free of all chemicals, completely natural and it can be found at Walmart and Walgreens. The line has detangling spray, shampoo, conditioner, co-wash, a hold and shine moisture mist, milk, smoothie, and a soufflé gel for staying in place hair styles!!
Beautiful texture is a brand their detanglers work amazing
Hello emamezi,
I have found a simple hair rinse that works on white folks hair as well as mixed or black hair. It takes just some vinegar, rosemary, and water.
1)Brew water like you're making a tea.
2) Set aside a spray bottle or glass, pour into vessel about 1/4 cup to a 1/2 cup of vinegar.
3) place tea strainer over/on the glass/vessel/bottle.
4) A good two 'pinches' of rosemary into the tea strainer.
5) Pour the very hot water into the rosemary which will filter into the vessel.
6) Let the contents steep for about 5 min.
7) Shake vigorously for about 30 sec. then.....
8)When cooled, spray on hair of person, work into hair till its saturated with the rinse, and then start gently with a comb, till hair is thoroughly detangled.
It works!!! This year I began to grow my hair long. And if it weren't for the rosemary rinse I would not even consider growing it. Believe me....a bird can fly over and break wind and I have tangles from hades! Without the rinse (you can make at home and save a few bucks) I would keep my hair very short! Once applied to the hair, you don't rinse it out until the next time the hair is washed.
I hope that helps
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