I have a 14 month old that won't stop crying. I have not changed her diet or routine, sometimes she is crying while I am holding her. I just don't know what to do anymore. It is causing stress between my bf and I. Can someone give any advice?
By Selena from Cambridge
Would it be possible your child is teething? If so, get some Baby Orajel (I think that is the name of it) and put a dab on your finger then rub it on the child's gums.
I agree she could be teething. Look inside her mouth for any new teeth pushing through. If that's it you can also buy, along with the Ora Gel, a Teething Ring that you put in the refrigerator or freezer she can suck on that will help. You haven't given enough information for adequate responses.
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I wish you well.
Some good advice here about the teething, and the well baby checkup. I am sure your babys problem will clear up with time. Do be careful that your boyfriend doesn't become too frustrated with the crying.
Another thing to check is for an ear infection. My Baby went through this and I felt so bad because I did not realize at the time that his ear was badly infected. There were no signs other than the constant crying.Please take the baby to the doctor and have a check up.
Constant crying is not normal and can mean so many things. Even the Dr. missed the infection in the other ear and it was caught when I took him back because he still would not stop crying. The Baby could be in pain and this is the only way they have of letting you know. Good luck, I hope this will soon be O.K.
First take the child to the doctor, something serious could be wrong. Then check out The Happiest Toddler on the Block. Finally, how long have you had your BF? Is he causing your baby stress? Remember your baby MUST come first. You are your baby's protector.
I hate to bring this up but for years I worked with kids who had been molested. Most were molested by their mom's BF. please listen to your baby and keep your baby safe.
Teething. Ear infection. Fever from vaccination or something else. You likely should take the baby to a doctor or clinic. Tell the boyfriend to suck it up; if he giving you grief over this, dump him. A real man would be sympathetic, not causing additional problems.
First of all, get the child to a doctor pronto! If you have to, go to an Urgent Care facility. They have them in just about every city. If she rubs her ears during crying, it is most likely ear infection.
My daughter did the same thing years ago. You need to take the baby to the doctor because of this; no ifs, ands or buts about it! Your baby is trying to tell you something when she is crying. With me, it was my daughter's stomach too. Different vegetables and foods smashed up small enough for her to eat and even store bought strained baby foods caused gas in her little tummy causing her terrible gut wrenching, screaming pain.
PLEASE take her to her doctor or the hospital emergency room, if you have too. They have medicine's for this that will help calm your baby's stomach down and your nerves too, I promise.
I have been using baby magic tea for my infant since he was a few weeks old to treat his colic, constipation, reflux and other tummy issues. The tea is great for all these problems and is totally safe.
Try baby magic tea to soothe your baby. It's safe and preservative free and good for all tummy issues.
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Anyone know the difference between gas drops and gripe water? My baby is crying, arching his back, and I'm trying to see if either of these would help.
By AO
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I have found the best way to get rid of gas is to put some warm water, not hot, in a bottle, and then give it to the baby. Soon the warm water will cause the gas bubbles to come to the top or the bottom whichever the case may be, no pun intended. Also hold the baby in a over your lap and gently pat it's bottom and that helps gas to come out also. A nurse showed me how to do this move.
Sugar water will break up the gas bubbles. But, I hope you sought advice way before you posted here...that takes too long for most problems to be solved. Good luck.
If your baby is burping a lot, spitting up, has a hard, distended belly, or farting, then gas drops would help. Gas drops target the gas in your babys stomach, which soothes and relaxes their digestive system. The makers of Colic Calm just introduced some gas drops, called Tummy Calm. They have a lot of info on their site which can help you decide if you should use them:
Wikipedia defines gripe water as a home remedy for infants with colic, gastrointestinal discomfort, teething pain, reflux and other stomach ailments. It can be all natural, but you need to read the ingredients to make sure that it doesnt contain baking soda (sodium bicarbonte) which can upset your babys tummy even more. Also make sure it doesnt contain alcohol or sugar.
I used to use gripe water for colic with my babies, which seemed to help. It was a brand name called "Gripe Water". It tasted something like dill. My babies were never in such distress as yours, however. If this is a condition that your child is in often, you may need to consult a doctor.
My 14 month old daughter is crying for no reason (or so it seems). I have tried everything, rocking, singing, playing. She does this after her nap and she has eaten and had something to drink. What can I do? She is also not sleeping well at night.
Hi Michelle,
I hope things have improved by now, it's terrible to not be able to help a child that is upset and it can be really frustrating too. I know, I've had three children and understand how upsetting it can be.
I assume you have taken her to the doctor for a check-up, sometimes a baby with an ear infection won't show any sign other than being irritable. or maybe it's something else that needs looking at.
If you've been down that route and it's been a week and still no improvement I would bring her back for another check-up just to be sure.
Babies cry for so many reasons but it wouldn't usually continue for more than a day or two without some explanation so I can understand your worrying.
Please let us know how she is today.
Mum
Does she primarily do this after she eats and drinks? She may have gastro-enteritis and may need an antibiotic. People can pick this up from the ground and animals (pets).
It may also be possible that she has an ear infection? This sounds a lot like what my daughter used to go through and it would make her very irritable.
Both are pretty common among children. If it is something new for her and not the way she normally acts, I would look at a medical cause and check with your pediatrician.
take her to the Dr. to make sure there is no physical reason for this. She can't tell you what hurts.
She may have trouble digesting foods, or she may be constipated, or nauseated. If the dr. says no to any physical ailment, then perhaps is it a phase of adjustment she is going through. I hope it all turns out o.k.
Tinah
I had a similar problem and it ended up being her ears. Every time I took her to the doctor she would throw a fit about having her ears checked so he never pushed for it. Finally when I was at my wits end I just held her down and her checked her ears. She needed tubes and her ears were so blocked with wax and fluid that she has only hearing at 40% capacity. She never had a fever or exhibited any other signs of ear infection. (The doctor called them silent ear infections.) anyway she got tubes and has been fine since. Don't know if your child is the same but it is worth a check. It took me 2.5 years to figure out why my child wouldn't sleep or take to a regular schedule. Don't let the doctor push you around-your instincts are telling you something is wrong so push for him to figure out what it is.
Good luck.
Sounds like tummy trouble......definitely a trip to the doctors. She may be swallowing too much air when she is drinking & eating. Try cutting her food into much smaller pieces and see if she will drink thru a straw. And if she is a mouth breather (watch her when she is asleep > she will breath only through her mouth and not her nose > she may also snore) she will definitely be swallowing a lot of air. Hence when she wakens, she will have "gas" pains in her tummy. These may be some things you may want to consider. Definitely go to the Doctors though, and have her checked from stem to stern.
Take Care.
Children and animals do not cry for no reason. You need to have your child checked by a pediatrician. If the doctor cannot find a medical reason for the crying, it may mean she just needs to be held. Holding for psychological reasons is important. I am saying that holding is important enough to be done in and of itself. (grin) All children need to feel love and this is one of the few ways a young child can understand it.
Best wishes,
Take her to her pediatrician!
Could be lactose (milk) intolerance. Symptoms can show up some 5 hours later.
The cure is a dairy free diet or use Lactaid pills. Ask pediatrician because the cure via diet rather than pills may be recommended at this age.
Could also be an allergy to wheat and other foods.
The pediatrician may suggest an elimination diet. You omit a food group for a week, then see if symptoms come back when it is re-introduced. Must do careful bookkeeping of what was eaten and the time.
You gave us very little information, Like: Is she healthy the rest of the day? Do her symptoms change when she eats different things? When she wakes up from her nap is she grumpy or is she "fine"? Does she poop regularly, or is she constipated? Can you distract her & stop her crying with a bottle & a video, or does she STILL continue to cry? If we had the answers to these questions it would help
Most kids are grumpy when they first wake up, but you can usually stop their crying at this age with a bottle or the breast & at the same time, reading them a book or putting a kiddy video on the TV. If you can't distract her to stop her crying, then THAT'S when I'd start worrying... & then she needs to see a Doctor!
---> I assume if you haven't taken her to a doctor yet, then she must be "normal" the rest of the day? Am I right or wrong?
Is the "something" you give her to drink, acidic? Is her food mostly sugary? Do you combine fruit with meat? Do you feed her eggs? All of these things can cause an upset tummy.
I"d go strictly back to an all oatmeal cereal diet, and a little almond milk, along with Baby Formula Acidolphylus from the Health Food Store. It's good to neutralize any acidic condition, and even allow any stomach bacteria the baby might have picked up, to help with nausea. Try a 1/ teaspoon of Cola Syrup from Walgreens, if you have that store nearby.
I'd suspect baby food desserts/fruits sine they have so much corn sweetener/corn starch, if you were to analyze the food. After about two weeks of oatmeal with only a tiny amount of honey for sweetener and the Baby Formula Acidolphylus, and organic sweetened Vanilla Almond milk to drink, if she improves, then CAREFULLY and SLOWLY begin to introduce ONE new food/drink every WEEK to her again. If she starts up the crying, reexamine what she has just eaten/drunk. Avoid giving meat mixed with fruit, EVER, because fruit decomposes fast, producing gases, while the meat stays in the stomach/bowels up to two days, trapping the fruit gasses, causing terrible cramps. Loosen her diaper
after she eats and do NOT lie her down, but rather let her sit up for at least 45 minutes, doing most anything, until you solve her dilemma. If there is no luck with any of this, your child may need medical treatment/meds. Children are so resilient that it takes a lot to need medical care that a mother cannot solve. Keep trying a while. Avoid giving her any OTHER foods/drink until you solve it or get medical care. May God bless and help you learn what is her problem. : )
Like everyone said, it could be as simple as an upset tummy,colic, ear infection, etc. Some babies do go through spells where they cry for seemingly no reason & get over it, my 2nd child did around that age.
That being said, take her to her doctor & have them check her out, they can probably give you needed reassurance. But if they say they can't find anything wrong,& she continues doing this, have them run blood tests - especially a CBC(complete blood count) to be safe.
I'm really not trying to scare you, most of the time it's nothing serious & she will probably get over this. But I want to tell you my story about a crying baby.
My 3rd child started having crying spells around 18 months of age. Usually in afternoon or evening, but not always. He cried inconsolably, sometimes loud, sometimes more of a low moaning hum, sometimes for a half hour, sometimes for hours on end. He'd wake up crying at night. Nothing soothed him except to walk the floor with him (my hubby & I ended up with severe tennis elbow from this) until he quit or fell asleep.
Of course this usually never happened during pediatrician hours, or they couldn't fit him in. When I did get him in, or take him to after hours clinic, they looked in eyes, ears & mouth & usually couldn't find anything wrong. A couple of times he had an ear infection. They said probably colic since it was afternoon/evening crying. Since he & I seemed to catch & pass to each other every cold bug his 2 older siblings brough home from school, they said maybe that made him feel bad. A couple of times it was suggested he was just spoiled & wanted to be held-even though I told them he sounded like he was hurting when he was crying.
No other symptoms (except passing that darn cold back & forth). When he wasn't crying, he was a normal,healthy,active toddler.
This continued from Sept. - Nov., with multiple visits to after hours clinic & a couple to his doctor during the day. Then early Dec., a doctor gave me a scathing lecture on wasting valuable time they could be using on people who were REALLY sick instead of wasting time on an hysterical mother. Needless to say, that stopped the medical visits. I knew I wasn't hysterical(I had 2 older kids, not much upset me), I just hoped it was colic he would outgrow, like they said.
We went out of state for Xmas. By the time we came back New Year's Day, he'd had an intestinal virus, then caught another cold. He wasn't shaking the cold & looked pale & drawn.
This time the Pediatrician took one look & sent him for blood tests, thinking he was anemic from being sick.
Not hardly!, that blood test saved his life! My baby had Leukemia, blood cancer! The cancer specialist said he'd probably had it for several months.It causes bone pain. It causes the spleen to swell, which is painful. He HAD been crying because he was hurting.
He never had any of the 'typical' symptoms. And not one single time did any of the doctors do any blood tests - or they would have known. Not once did they touch his stomach(even though they thought he had colic), or they would've felt his enlarged spleen.
The simple CBC showed he had sky-high levels of white blood cells & almost no red blood cells.
Fortunately, after several transfusions & 2 1/2 years of chemo, my son is now a healthy 12 1/2 year old getting ready to celebrate 8 years this month since he finished treatment.
Once again, I'm not trying to scare you & am sorry if I did. My point is to trust your instincts & also that if your baby continues, & the doctor can't find anything or isn't doing standard exam or testing, insist on it just to be safe.
My son cries for no reason. He has just been going to nursery when he is their he is happy. As soon as he comes home he will cry, for no reason even after a sleep.
Babies cry for MANY REASONS. She is trying to understand something about her CHILD. And how exactly did you get to this thread? Because you're probably looking up the same thing about your child! I have took my 14 months old to the doctor 3 times in a month! Come to find out, NO INFECTION, NOTHING IS WRONG. She's just whiney! Like most toddlers! Ride out of here on the high horse you came in on.
I have a 10.5 month old baby boy, who doesn't sleep through the night, not even close. My husband and I can't handle him crying. It's so sad. :( He is my 4th child and my husbands first child.
Have you tried a white noise like a box fan or hair dryer. The constant sound really helped our baby sleep longer. When she wakes up too soon, the sound lulls her back to sleep. Worked like a dream for us. We since have bought a sound machine with ocean waves. My Friend recommended a little portable sound machine she found online at sleepybees.com that attaches to the car seat or stroller, Sleepy Bee. Now naps away from home are so much easier.
White noise definitely helps but oh my goodness not a hair dryer you'll burn your house down! Maybe try a more nipple shaped pacifier. This is not the best idea but lay him down with a bottle if he can hold it on his own. Then just do that less and less he won't starve overnight and ear plugs.
I believe you may need to let him cry it out , but I suggest calling a family member or close friend that you trust to help you with the "heartbreaking want to run to his rescue" urge.....you WILL need their support in this time ....with each child being individuals, the time frame is unknown, but asking for a week of their time may help. Oh, yes and maybe giving hard working hubby a special gift of peace, with a week long rest in a nice bed n breakfast.....for bnb's usually offer set times for meals with guests being served together.....usually prices include all meals and stay period.....research is pretty easy online in your community.....just suggesting. As for your little angel, you WILL definitely need support of someone not of your own household to help.....my daughter came home to california from Missouri with her 15 month old and a VERY SPOILED TO CONSTANT CODDLING 6.5 month old....WOW was that a rude awakening....the "baby" was held by her aunt 24/7 since birth and WOULD NOT PUT HER DOWN.....personally, that was equally abusive as shaking her, this poor little baby not only had a hard time deciding who her mommy was .....but equally trying to understand. Mommy can't hold her 24/7 due to having another baby as well......trauma, trauma, trauma.....just watching my daughter's guilt ridden face was just as heartwrenching....I really wanted to cry for her.....but I, moreso ,needed to support her....so I set up the stroller with her favorite drinks ,snacks, fruits and the older baby's favorites, etc......and sent her down the road to the school ball field for 2 hours......by the time she got back , our little angel was exhausted from crying and was fast asleep.....and slept all night long for the first time in her short little life and has since.....sometimes our bad habits must be dealt with in Grace and patience while keeping a peaceful, watching eye......just sit back and let them get it ALL OUT!!!!! God bless and good luck....nis
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I have a 10.5 month old baby boy, who doesn't sleep through the night, not even close. My husband and I can't handle him crying. It's so sad. He is my 4th child and my husbands first child.
