I have been going to a private clinic for medication for 3 years. During the last year I have been sexually harassed in person, through phone calls which are not even allowed, and through text messages. The person is the head nurse at this clinic in charge of everything with all my personal information including my home address. He also has made it a point to let me know that he can and will mess with my documents including changing the dose of my medication if I told anyone.
I just found out today he is doing this to other women there too, but I am scared of what he will do if I tell someone. I am sick of this harassment enough is enough, what should I do? Should I talk to a lawyer or just talk to the supervisor? Please help?
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This is serious, as he has access to your file. My suggestions are: (1) Document date, time, description of encounters and verbal threats; (2) go to hospital/clinic administrative manager with this information; (3) in the meantime, give all such information to your attorney, if you have one. If you don't have an attorney, find one who specializes in sexual harassment cases, and let him/her know the steps you are taking.
Forgot to mention: Keep the text messages - for evidence.
You need to report this immediately. The sooner the better, before you or some else gets hurt.
Report this creep to the police. In fact I would ask that a plain clothed female officer to accompany me to my next appointment so they can document the sexual harrassment, have the police put a tap on your phone line so they can record his calls to you, save all the emails so you can present them to the police. Also get a large dog for protection in your home. Carry a mini tape recorder with you so you can record his comments to you. This creep belongs in jail and have his license revoked. Don't wait for something more to happen get him behind bars. Pepper spray would be another good choice to carry.
Nikky, Its called "Security Cameras" that's your proof that wrong doing is going on, the police can demand the tapes. Probably wouldn't do any good to report it to the supervisor because they probably already know, just no one will speak up. If it were me I would have turned and slapped him as hard as I could and made sure it drew attention.
You do not have to put up with that from anyone no matter who it is. You could have a trusted friend to help you, have them to take a picture with their cell phone, pow, there's your proof.
Don't let this slide, it could to lead to something really bad. You said it has happened to others, well, all of you go to the police, take your texts you have recieved and report it so at least it will be on record. Stuff like this really makes me furious, I hope the best for you. Someone needs to stand up to this low life. Wish I were there, I would show you how to take care of trash like him. Good Luck
Hello Nikky,
I am very sorry you are having to go through this type of abuse.
We can all tell you ways to report this but we really do not have enough information (rightly so) about why you are going to this clinic.
1) Can you go to another clinic now or after you report this?
2) How long do you "stay" at this clinic when you go for medication? Is this a large clinic?
3) Do you think anyone else will actually go with you (or even admit it if they are asked by law enforcement) or are they "just talking"?
4) Do you need an attorney? Do you want/plan to sue?
If you do then you do need an attorney but I believe an attorney would put more credence in your situation if you had already tried to do something yourself (unless there is physical danger!).
Should you report this to HIS supervisor? I truly believe this should be your first step and then you may have some idea if others will support you or if they are "just talking".
Then you may have some idea about how to proceed when reporting your problem to law enforcement (as you should do) even if the supervisor tries to correct the problem (like firing the nurse).
I do know that when reporting sexual harassment (to a mediator or law enforcement) in a large work place you have to had tried to discuss this with the person doing harassing (which you apparently have done) and then to their supervisor before they will accept your case.
(I have worked with this so I do know how it works in most larger businesses.) Smaller businesses (such as your problem area?) may not require all of these things but I feel sure they will listen more closely if you have tried/reported the problem to someone.
Most responders will feel you should report this to somebody as soon as possible - so you have to decide which will be your first step - but please take that first step soon.
Please, please do something about it asap. If you can, try to get the other women to do it with you. Walk into his supervisor's office with a support system of other people who have had the same thing happen--it will be easier for all of you, even if there is only one other person.
When it comes to medical caretakers, there should not be the same standard of behavior on the victim's part as there would be at a business with a boss or coworker. He has taken an oath to do no harm and should lose his license for this kind of unethical, immoral, and unprofessional behavior.
But please do it soon. This type of predator tends to escalate in his behavior as he gets away with more and more. It will help if you can gather as much evidence as possible. Keep all of the text messages. If you can keep your phone on you, record all of your interactions with him him--just let it run as you keep the phone in your pocket or purse, if possible. This might not be admissible in court, but it would sure be admissible for his employer to hear. You can even record the session at which you speak to his employer.
You can go to the police. They can at least give you some advice on how to proceed, what they can do for you, etc. If one doesn't help you, find someone who will.
This kind of person will not stop until someone makes him stop. And he will likely get worse, not just to you, but to other women there, as well. He is blackmailing people at their most vulnerable with the personal information in their files and a threat of actually changing their medication.
I will tell you this - if you do report him, he will most likely NOT do the things he has threatened. He would be scrutinized like crazy, and anything he did would just add to the mounting evidence against him. He is using your fear to give him power.
Please, gather up all of your resources and evidence. The best resource will be the other women. Perhaps you can get an attorney (even a pro bono one) or an attorney friend of one of the women to go with you to talk to the man's supervisor.
We are not the best source of advice for your situation, as we don't know specific details or the laws in your state. But I sincerely wish you the best of luck in dealing with that predator.
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