I am 15 yrs old and ever since I started my middle school (6th grade), I was often asked this question "Why do you have so much hair on your hands and legs?" by both male and female classmates. When I was in 7th grade I shaved my legs and my hands once without my mom's permission. So she scolded me and she said she will only allow me to shave after I am 17 or 18 yrs old, but I think that's way too long.
Now I am in 10th grade and a guy in 12th grade asked me "Why do you have so much hair on your legs?" I was really shocked and embarrassed. I didn't eat anything that day. I told my dad and he told my uncle without my permission. But when I told my mom, she was was like "You can shave" (in an angry tone). But my uncle went to my school's principal. And he and I were called in. I was shocked to see him. I actually didn't want him to get scolded as he could hold grudges and spread this incident in the whole school. And he actually did that. Although a few people know about this. Then my mom allowed me to shave my legs, but still I have a lot of hair on my hands. Many people stare at it. Indians are hairy and I asked my mom to let me shave my arms. (I was really afraid) and she was "No No No". My best friend started shaving in the 7th grade. Her mom told her that she could, but my mom is so freaking persistent. I am hairy that's why I have dense pores on my legs even after shaving.
Now Pujas (an Indian festival) is coming up and we buy clothes and wear them on this occasion. I am thinking of asking her to let me shave my hands. I need some advice regarding this. I'll be looking forward to these answers. Oh by the way my mom shaves.
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Hello young lady I completely understand your dilemma and I hope my advice will help and that you'll beable to change your mother's mind you deserve to not be picked on and embarrassed and if it's something that you can change and would change things for you what's the harm. So seeing how your mom doesn't want youto shave there are other ways for hair removal have you heard of a product called nair it's a creme that you use in the shower its stinky but there isno shaving involved you put it on let it set for a minute then wipe off with a rag.
Your parents may agree to you using a depilatory instead of a razor. You wont cut yourself.
I am so sorry you are going through this. You are at a tough age!! I feel for you! Almost everyone I know (and I am OLD) has gone through this as a teen...and those who have kids, have been on the flip side. Neither side is fun.
What I wish someone had told me is first of all, when you start shaving, it never ends. Never. At least not yet in my world/
That is pain....but I get it....society things it is not cool...and we all want to look and feel pretty!! I understand why my mom wanted me to wait...but that is now, many years later. Back then, NOT so much!
I wish someone had told me I was pretty no matter what....which you are...we are all beautiful because we are who we are!!! I hate that women in particular are so focused on following these society norms.
I also wish I would not have YELLED and screamed at my mom. That wasn't cool. The conversation should have been calm and clinical. Just the facts. Spoken softly and with respect.
You can tell your mom you were reading up on health issues and saw this web MD article. You can even share it with her if you feel it is helpful:
teens.webmd.com/
What concerns me is that your mom may not be aware of the bullying part of this and how THAT is hurting you.
It is important to tell you mom that you are being bullied and made fun of. That is not cool and your mom needs to help you do whatever it takes to develop the confidence to withstand the wrath of bullies.
Bullies are weak people and taking THEIR issues out on others....they need help!! You could try to kill them with kindness...but at your age, I know that is VERY hard to do.
Here is an article to help you build your confidence and stand up to bullies:
Maybe you and your mom can read that together.
I will keep you in my prayers!! Be easy on yourself!! You are beautiful and unique and awesome!!!
EMBRACE EVERYTHING THAT MAKE YOU YOU!!! INCLUDING THE HAIR :)
The important thing here is what you want in order for you to feel happy with you. All bullying and yelling aside, do you want the hair off your arms? Would that make you ultimately happy? If so, have a heart to heart with your mum. Tell her about all the happenings, all the bullying, how you feel inside. You can tell her you don't have to put a razor to the hair on your arms and hands, that there are other methods of removal like creams. She can even assist.
Bullying should not be permitted! Hair is only natural. Do you want to shave your hair? Or you are comfortable as is?
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