My dad died when I was 11, and my mom was receiving money as a payee. Now I am 18 and I went to the Social Security office myself and I was told by the office that it was my money and she was just the payee name. When I was 14 I asked for the money because I had a feeling it was my money and she said no. She worked no job and used the money to buy herself what she couldn't get with food stamps, and she occasionally bought me stuff. She made it seem like it was her money. Would she technically be considered stealing if I asked for the money since it was my money and she was just a payee, and can I do anything about it? I have to go back to school next September, would I be able to recieve the money during summer till school starts back up even though I'm 18 now?
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1. You're 18. There won't be any more money coming.
2. Social Security already payed your mom as payee the full amount. There's nothing left to send.
3. As a minor, your mother was your guardian, and payments *received* would go to her.
She didn't "steal" your money. She bought you food, school supplies, put a roof over your head. Provided for your basic necessities. The money was supposed to go to take care of you, and it did.
She didn't steal from you. IF she had, you'd have to go after your own mother and legally accuse her of a crime and have her forced by the law to pay you. Which is extreme, but also, again, she did not steal from you. She took care of you and that's what the money was for.
Since you are still living, your mom had to feed you and put a roof over your head etc. If you were living in your car and were not being taken care of. Then you should have contacted Social Security at that time.
You are unbelievable! What do you mean "My daughter tried to pull that on me". That money belongs to the child. It is YOUR responsibility to provide for YOUR child! If the child wasn't receiving SS benefits would you make them get a job and pay part of the rent? It's not enough you get a tax break because of them, but now you think your intitled to take their money and use it as your own? Perhaps you should get a job/better job and cover YOUR own childs needs. It's not the governments responsibility to cover YOUR childs basic needs! UNBELIEVABLE...
If the parent had still been living and was in the home they would be providing all necessities and paying for it. If they were alive and NOT in the home they would be paying child support. Since they are deceased, that support money comes in the form of Social Security. Just like Child Support it is meant to support the child. This means whoever the guardian of the child is will be the payee and use this money to pay the child's bills. If you were single and had no kids then things such as rent would be cheaper for a smaller sized home, food, water, gas and electric would be scaled down for just one person. But the extras, plus school items, clothes, toiletries, school trips, extra curricular activities etc... PLUS the fact most of these parents have lost 50%-100% of the household income depending if the deceased was the main breadwinner or not. I think you all are forgetting that. When my sons father died it was a car accident. I wasn't planning for it- it was unexpected. We had our way of life set like many do and we were comfortable and we were young. Then he died. I worked but I lost 60% of what I was paying out each month without him helping. The bills were still there and we didn't have the money to get out of them and start over completely. That money allowed me to continue the way of life we were living when he was alive without anymore disruption than the death itself brought with it. He worked for that money. That's why the system was put into place. If you have a financial situation that allows you to hand your kid hundreds to thousands of dollars each month then that's your business, but don't bash those of us that were not "rich" and then took the financial brunt of a death and still had to protect and provide for our kids.
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