Surprise Gift for a Friend?

weinerdog41

September 19, 20130 found this helpful

This is so sad. I wonder what went wrong between you and your Mother. Search your heart and ask yourself what part you played in the relationship. I was angry with my Mother for several years but when I had children of my own I came to understand the sacrifices she made and the reasons why she did some of the things she did.

We can divorce a spouse, breakup with a lover, drop a sibling or a friend but when we alienate ourselves from the one who brought us into the world we are not whole and we will suffer the consequences in one way or another. Maybe not now but surely later.

As parents we do the best we can with the life we've endured and the hand we've been dealt. The lady you now call your Mother may not be a Mother herself if she were I'd think she should be understanding and try to help you bridge the gap between you and your Mother.

I don't know your situation and your Mother may be abusive but you're old enough to live on your own. But you must find it in your heat to forgive but it doesn't mean you can forget. Those are two different things. Good luck to you and your future.

Mary Lou

September 19, 20130 found this helpful

How long have you been talking with each other? Think about your conversations, there might be a clue in one of them. It might be nice to make her something. like a heart with both your initials on it out of anything you can afford or have. A painted rock makes a good paperweight and you could do a heart and initials on it too.

Dena R.

September 22, 20130 found this helpful

I am from Canada. It gets quite cold here. I would suggest a pretty head scarf. A wide and long one that she can cover her head with and wrap around her neck would be pretty as well as useful.