I'm 15 and I'm looking for something I can do at home to earn money. I have looked at cashcrate and inbox something or other, but I couldn't really understand it. I have a cousin who might be pregnant (really it's not me it's my older cousin) and I told her if she is I will help.
The thing is I'm in high school and college at the same time so I have a lot of work. I am just looking for a job at home that's simple and will pay. I'm not asking for a lot of pay, just some. Her mother told her if she was, she wasn't helping and that she would be kicked out which really isn't fair considering she had her at her age and my grandmother had her at a younger age. So any way I'm pretty much all she has and I feel like I need to help. So here I am and I do work on Fridays babysitting, so that's being put up too. Please help. Thank you and God bless.
By <3hollywoodundead<3 from Akron, OH
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You have good intentions, but your cousin isn't your responsibility. There are places she can go for help. The father should be helping, if anybody helps. She should call the Department of Social Services and see what advice she can get. If she is over 18, she should be working, and therefore wouldn't be completely destitute.
Nobody needs new things for a baby, you can shop thrift stores, rummage sales, etc. I have a 20 year old granddaughter who became a single mother at 19 years, and oh boy! the father was going to give all this help. He was going to buy a new crib for the baby, help her move into her apartment, buy this and that for the baby, the baby is now 9 1/2 months old and so far nothing.
A friend gave my granddaughter a crib, and her mother and siblings helped her move. The baby's father is a seasonal worker, so for five months she hasn't received child support and she hasn't been able to find a job. She had to quit the job she had due to pregnancy complications, and then the baby had several problems right after delivery. My thought when I found out she was pregnant and I still think that is that she should have given the baby up, but all of her single friends were having babies, and it seemed to be contagious.
There is state aid available for low income people. Your friend could find out what is available at the department of social services. Some of the things that might be available are medicaid, aid families of dependent children, food stamps, WIC (which is a program where you get monthly vouchers for milk, juice, cheese, peanut butter, etc., this program starts when a woman is pregnant, and goes until the child is five years old. You do have to meet income guide lines.
Information on this program is available at social services too.) There is also rent subsidized apartments where the rent is figured at 30% of your income. If you have no income, the rent is free. You do have to have money to pay your electricity, phone, and cable and internet, if you want those two things. Also after the baby is born the state will make sure the father pays child support, whether he wants to or not.
When I was young the only birth control available was condoms and they aren't real reliable.
You might try babysitting to earn some extra money, but no matter what kind of job you would have, you won't earn enough to help your cousin. She is going to have to pull herself up by her boot straps and grow up. As far as her mother actually kicking her out, that might have been a threat said in the heat of the moment from shock. I do know if my daughters had got pregnant as minors, they would have been given a choice, give the baby up or abortion. I wasn't inclined to start raising a baby again - I had raised my kids. When teenagers have babies, the grandparents are the ones that end up doing most of the raising.
I think your state should be contacted for help with this. First, a story.... old people love to tell stories. One of my aunts got pregnant at 15 and was kicked out by her extremely righteous mother. She was my daddy's younger sister so Daddy and one of his brothers chased the guy to Baton Rouge and forced him to "make things right" with their little sister.
Years later this same sister had 2 girls who came home pregnant. What does she do? She kicked them out! My mother helped both of them by making clothes for mom and baby. She also of her meager income helped them with housekeeping stuff. They married the guys, and left town and the babies were good sized kids before they came back.
Their grouchy, judgmental mother never got to see her infant grandchildren. I hope it works out for your cousin and for you. You are a dear, kindhearted girl and a good friend. Tell her to try the state aid agencies. They can advise her.
Redhatterb--This person came here looking for help, not a moral lecture. I don't usually comment on posts other people make. We know nothing about the circumstances of her or her family, and in any case it's not our place to judge. I gather from your posts you don't approve of teenagers dating; everyone is entitled to their opinion, but there is a time and a place for it.
To the OP--I think what you're trying to do is very kind, but redhatterb is right on one thing, that even if you were to find work it would be difficult to provide for your cousin on your own. It sounds like you already have a lot on your plate with school and I'm sure you wouldn't want that to suffer. If the father or her family really are unwilling to help then she should look and see what her legal options are as to child support or benefits.
I don't know much about online jobs but I'd be wary; assuming they were legitimate a lot of them just aren't worth the time for the money you get. You might be better off waiting until summer and getting a part-time job. If your cousin is indeed pregnant what she will need most from you is your love and support. Baby things are easy to get but love can be in shorter supply, especially during hard times. God bless you, and good luck to you both.
She has the choice to have or not have an unplanned for baby. My generation didn't have legal options and the future for her and this baby is dim; poverty, welfare, unpaid child support, child abuse at the hands of a boyfriend, etc. If abortion is against her -not anyone else's - beliefs, then there is adoption. I think she need more than money from a 15 year old who is already taking college classes. Education is the way out.
No social commentary here - just money making ideas. Do your bake? College students love muffins, cookies, & brownies. Also, if you sew you could make bags, wristlets, book covers, etc. Or crochet hair things. You could make them in your school colors (cookies or book covers). That way you could multi-task school and work.
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I agree that social services can give significant assistance that you could not. That is the way to go! And you can be there for moral support and some mother's helper time, but only if you have extra time, and it sounds like you don't. My dad also was in college at age 15, and that is really wonderful.
As far as your earning $, you could tutor (your home or theirs), private or group classes. You could even tutor over the internet or telephone. When I was your age, I did pastel portraits of pets! Now I work from home as a transcriptionist, and it is not easy to make a buck even at home and it takes a very, very long time, maybe years, to be good at making that buck.
You did not say what your skills are (computer, etc), but there is always a need for people who are willing and skilled! Make some note cards or fliers to post on your local store bulletin board; let the librarian know you want to do reading to kids, hold exercise groups in your room for kids (just dancing, getting away from television). Stick with what you know.
Please encourage your cousin to visit a local pro-life (make sure it's pro-life--her baby deserves to live!) CPC (crisis pregnancy center). They provide loving help for moms and babies. I have worked with some for years, and can tell you they offer hope. Quite unlike the terrible despair of abortion which discourages and despairs and says "your life and your baby's life will be horrible." (and much $$ is made off this!) There is a future ahead for this baby. I'm so thankful your cousin is choosing life! The organization 'Silent No More,' made up of post-abortive women, is trying to warn women against abortion, because they see the immense damage abortion does in so many ways--to women and society in general. Also contact Live Action, (ALL) American Life League, or other pro-life organizations. They tell the truth and they respect lives. CPCs help women and babies, and do it lovingly.
Remember: you are wonderful for wanting to help your cousin, but it's not all up to you. Do what you can, that's great, but also steer her to a pro-life CPC. As for jobs, check summer employment at garden centers and such, and hospitals, stores, fast food places, etc. Check through your school, too. They may have connections.
I will pray for you, your cousin, and her precious baby. Bless you all.
I think she is asking for a way to make some extra cash, and not for all this advice concerning her cousin! You could try a pet sitting or dog walking business, dog walking only takes an hour a day, and pays well, or you could try cleaning houses, again, about an hour or 2 a day, or cut grass, shovel snow, do grocery shopping for shut ins. Each take about an hour a day. Good luck with all your problems.
I think most "online jobs" are scams and would advise you to not pursue that.
Perhaps you could do some typing for people. Tutoring would be an excellent idea.
As far as your cousin goes, I, as an adoptive mom, wholeheartedly endorse adoption. Very few teenagers are ready to be parents and all that it entails. Open adoptions would enable her to have information and pictures of the child as it grows and she would bless three people (the couple and the baby) with a family they desperately want. So many people are heartbroken because they are infertile and waiting, waiting, waiting forever for a baby.
Thank you all for your info and input. We found out she is pregnant she is like 5 weeks in. We looked into all the social services type of things. Everything was talke out then her mom blew out of no were so we looked up her rights. Her mom can not force her to give up the baby through abortion or adoption. But since she is only 17 she has to prove that her and her mother do not get along and that it is not a safe place for her and the baby to be staying with my aunt. We found out that she does not need her mother to sign up for wic and such. As of right now she is staying with the baby's father and his parents because they have the room and some one will always be there to help them.
I signed up for this thing called swag bucks and so far so good I figured I can earn gift cards and go buy things that she and the baby need. So I know they are being spent on things that they are intended for instead of stupid crap she just wants rather then needs. I already do baby sit every week. On Friday I get paid pretty well but not enough for me to support her and the baby's needs. What the money is intended for, my wants which is to save for a car and my future. Or something I just want to have in general like gifts for the boyfriend and clothes for me and so forth.
My grandmother told her I am behind you I'll help with what I can same with my mother and uncle. None of them support the idea of her being pregnant but they support her and her choice to keep the baby rather then kill it. I'm still not gonna give up and try to help her even if it is just a little. I saved up over 400$ in less then 4 months so I think I can save up quite a bit in the next 9 months for her. Please keep commenting and giving support and ideas on how to help her. Thank you and God bless.
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