Is it inappropriate to request giftcards in lieu of gifts for a shower?
By MiMi from LA
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I don't feel it is proper to request any particular type of gift for any occasion, other than at the bridal or baby registries.
When I got married (over 15 years ago), I read that it wasn't proper to tell guests where you are registered when sending out invitations. People will want to know, so *when they ask* it is okay to tell them where you have registered. I assume the same would apply to your situation. Don't mention gifts of any sort in your invitation. But if anyone asks, then you could tell them that you'd appreciate anything, but gift cards to (whatever store) would be particularly helpful.
Best of luck with your happy occasion. I hope your wedding and union are wonderful and long-lasting.
No. But if someone asks you can suggest gift cards.
I think it would be proper to ask the hostess to organize a gift card shower, she could have people cut out photos of things they would buy with the gift card and have write down why they like that (this would be like the household hint part of the shower). For instance they could place the card in a box with a homemade swiffer pad with a pic of the swiffer and a note about why she likes to use this mop. The hostess could ask them to place it into an inexpensive kitchen item for wrapping such as a disposable food container, a roll of plastic wrap etc.
It is not proper. But can be suggested if asked. (Asking for giftcards is like asking for money.) Some people are going to bring gifts anyway.
When my son got married I had a "pasta and wine" shower for them. Everyone brought a bottle of wine, some pasta (there are so many different kinds!), a pasta bowl, and their favorite pasta recipe. My son and his wife were University students and lived on pasta, which they love. Everyone said that was a great idea, because they never know what to buy for anyone, since most people have moved out of their parents homes and have everything they need before they get married.
It is not proper to tell anyone any time what you want as a gift. Someone asks, you can suggest. And don't forget to send thank you notes, emailed or verbal don't count. Nothing is worse than people asking for money, especially when they say they need it to fund their honey moon, or to pay on their wedding. If you have to beg for funds, then you don't deserve anything, any gift, in any form.
No, it's tacky! C'mon people! Whatever happened to being grateful for getting a gift at all? Now people want to dictate what they should get or want?
Before you judge, realize that things have changed over the years. I have lived with my boyfriend for 3 years and anything that we have ever wanted for our house we have bought ourselves. Now there is literally nothing to register for so it more practical to ask for gift cards to help with different projects around the house. Why should I ask people to buy brand new household items so we can get rid of perfectly good household items? When you are young I understand why you feel the need to register but people are getting married later and later in life so there is nothing wrong with asking for money and gift cards.
This is my exact situation for my daughters bridal shower! My problem is how do I word it on the invite or even if I put it on a separate card without it sounding tacky?
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