I am afraid to ask my mom to shave but i hate my legs I have tried to bring up the subject but I keep chickening out. Please help me.
Whitney
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I decided to ask my mom early this morning... She said it hadn't even crossed her mind about me possibly shaving(even though I'm 12) she then said she would buy me a razor then teach me how..(though we've had the talk already) and I will have to shower then tomorrow morning I will begin shaving.. So don't worry at all it will feel great for her to know and to get it off your back
Girl I started shaving at seven on and off and regularly at eight. Your my age 14 now and I know this was two years ago but I had to add my opinion.
Shaving was always an option my mom told us that if we felt we needed to shave we could start. Of course we have two very different moms but ya know its ur body.
I shave everywhere. My legs, armpits, pubic, stomach (weird I know), and the underside of my forearm.
Shaving is a controversial thing but for me I do it because it makes me feel clean and like a girl. Which I am.
Thanks that's helpful. Shaving your stomach is not weird at all if you feel like you have dark hair there, though I don't think I would let anyone start at 7 as skin is very sensitive and that's well before your first period.
Unless this is a cultural or religious issue, I would simply ask mom to have a chat. Explain to her how you are feeling and that you wish to do something about it. Maybe you are not ready to shave with a razor however there are products out there like Nair hair remover which is a lotion you smooth on your legs and leave on for 4 minutes and wipe the hair away that you can be responsible enough to use. My daughter started with this method at 10 years old and was just allowed to try to use the razor at 12 years old. She is doing beautifully. Remember we were young ladies too once and I am sure your mother will understand how the appearance of your legs matters to you.
I know exactly how you feel! I am 71 and had the same trouble working up nerve to ask my mama. When I finally did she said I might want to do the underarms too.
I'm with the other ladies, your mom probably remembers and will be be understanding so just ask. If your mom objects to the razor, ask if you can use the lotion. Most moms are ok with the lotions.
Well my mom I like I didn't start shaving till like 13 or 14 buy I am 12 and embarrass so help me
The most terrifying part is asking. But I agree with the other posters- A lot of moms wait for their daughters to bring it up out of fear of embarassing them. Honestly, would you want your mom to mention it to you? When I asked my mom about shaving, she took me right out and we bought an assortment of razors and creams and I spent the evening figuring out which I preferred.
I know how you feel, I am 30 and still waiting waiting for my 12 year old daughter to ask me if she can shave. Of course I'm going to say yes because her puberty is out of this world she is always talking about BOYS BOYS BOYS, and how their looking at her legs and picking on her but I know she is just afraid to ask. I STARTED shaving at the age 12 and she needs to ask me.
Ask your mom how old she was when she started shavng her legs. This will lead into the subject of letting her know you are interested in starting and ask for her opinion. Moms love it when their daughters ask them for advice.
IMHO, the mother should be taking the lead on shaving. It should form part of guidance on growing up, like using deodrants, wearing stockings and bra's, etc. OK, I was a teenager more than 40, yes FORTY!! years ago, but the basic situation is the same. So many young girls have posted about their need to shave and their fears/hesitation in asking their mothers about it. So, all you mothers out there, reach out to your daughters and they will appreciate you for it.
If none of these suggestions appeal to you, then when your mom is sitting down put your leg up on her lap and ask "ya think it's time"....? You probably won't have a problem asking her when you could go out on a date, so this shouldn't be either. If this is a problem, put shavers on her grocery list and then I am sure she will come to you!
I would say: Mom, I need to talk to you when you have a chance about something that has been bothering me. Then let her know just how important it is to you and why. You might not want to say, because all my friends are doing it, just stick to why it is important to you and that you have researched the best and safest ways to do it.
Or, your could start by asking her how old she was when she started shaving her legs.
Good luck!
Mary Lou
Best thing to do is to put it into a letter. If you write the letter on your computer, then you can get it in decent shape before you print it and leave it out for her (in a place where nobody else will get it). If you handwrite it she's more likely to say yes, but you can still use the computer for figuring out what to say.
If I wrote it, it would say:
Mom, I'm shy, I'm nervous about asking, but I would like to shave my legs. They obviously need it, it seems to me. Please help me get going with taking care of myself in this way, since I will need supplies for this, like something to shave with. Thank you for your time. Sincerely, ...
I had this problem. Seriously it is so much easier to get up the courage and ask her directly. I'm sure she did it when she was young, ask her how old she was! My mum wouldn't let me at first so be prepared to keep trying. Good luck!
Whitney,
Just be honest us moms were kids too and remember we went through the same things with our moms too tell her your legs make you feel uncomfortable and you would like to have nice smooth ones I bet your mom hasn't even given thought to it as we all wanna keep our girls lil! Honesty is best! Good luck it will probably be so easy you will wonder why you fretted at all.
the next time you both are in walmart shopping and she goes to the section for shampoo etc. find that area where the shavers are and start the topic of conversation there by saying"is this the type I would use to shave my legs because I would really like to start doing so mom" I'm sure she'll remember her time in her life and feel its your time too. Sometimes the moms get so busy they just simply do not think of all these things or changes you are going through. And you'll have to bring it up so she can remember when she went through the same thing at your age. After its said & done you'll see it was just a grain of sand & not a mountain to climb in the asking her about it.
same situation 35 years ago!! I paid my little brother & his friends to 'taunt' me & call me doggy legs or something, then I pretended to cry & ran to mommy. She said "go ahead, but once you do, you'll never be able to stop".... BOY, I wish I'd listened instead of being in such a hurry to grow up!
Just know that it changes your LIFE because from then on, you'll pretty much be a SLAVE to the razor!
I had this problem when I was in 5th grade, im in 8th now. I was with my older sister at the grocery store and she asked me if i wanted to, I said yes. But Just ask your mom and say its really been bugging you and you feel like its time. But how old are you? Dont be in a rush to grow up and do that because i did it young and once you do it you really cant stop.
I had this problem when I was in 5th grade, im in 8th now. I was with my older sister at the grocery store and she asked me if i wanted to, I said yes. But Just ask your mom and say its really been bugging you and you feel like its time. But how old are you? Dont be in a rush to grow up and do that because i did it young and once you do it you really cant stop.
I am 12 and have no older sisters (or any siblings for that matter). How do I ask my mom. People always say ask her like you asked her to wear a bra. Well she asked me about that so, HELP!
I have the same problem as u but my mom came to me about getting a bra and she has came down to my rooms and said why dont u where shorts this summer but I have never have the courage to say it to her
Just ask your mother and be honest. She will understand my daughter was the same way and ended up trying it on her own and it was a bloody mess in the bath tub. She put too much pressure on the razor and cut her legs, just ask your mother to show you. She will.
Hi there, Maybe starting for the first times, a good electric razer would be best. They have them for duel purpose, legs and underarms . much safer, keep away from water though.
P.S. After you ask your mom. The electric razer can be used in your bedroom. That way your not taking up bathroom time, which she and others will appreciate very much.
well i just googled how to ask your mom, if u can shave your legs and i am looking at everyones response and now i am gunna go ask her wish me luck ;]
Same. I havent got the courage to ask my mom yet. I am also 12 in 7th grade and people have been making fun of me. How do I tell my mom.
I have the same problem. I'm 12 in 7th grade and really scared. My sister started in 7th grade but it's still scary and very embarrassing.
Hey!
- I am 13 years old (7th grade), and I just started shaving when I was 12 years old! (last april) MY GOD it was so hard to ask my mom about shaving my legs, at the beggining of the year I finally worked up the nerve to ask her about a bra, and she said of course.
What I did to ask about shaving: it was a weekend, and me and my mom were in the living room sitting on the couch, and I just leaned over and put my head on her shoulders and asked what magazine she was reading, and then I sorta just said "mom, I think i should shave my legs, because i kind of feel uncomftorable sometimes, since i will be wearing shorts all summer."
That is what I said, and it worked! I hope this helps! I know EXACTLY what you are going through, but now I can talk to my mom about anything puberty related.
I feel the same, I just don't know what to do, it took me ages to tell my mam I had started my period, but I knew I had to tell her. I felt myself cringe when I did! She was fine with it, but I'm really shy and I just can't bring myself to ask my mam about shaving my legs! I keep thinking right, I'm going to ask her but then when I see her I just can't! I know it sounds stupid but I can't help it and I am really embarrassed in p.e. cause I feel as if everyone is staring at my legs and I have dark hair as well (I'm 13 by the way) xx please help :(
I am going to go ask my mum now, I am so scared but I think I will bring it up whilst at the super market. I hope you is waiting for me to ask! I have been sneaking around using my sisters for ages though, think shes notices but she hasn't mentioned anything!
Here it goes....
I'm 11, and my legs are REALLY hairy. I asked my mom today if I can shave and she says no. Since tomorrow is my first day of middle school, and I'm gonna have to wear shorts. I'm going to try again later. Wish me good luck. =]
Just wanted to say that I'm 14 and in 9th grade. I started shaving in 7th grade when I was like 12. I DO have an older sister, but I didn't have to ask her, because I am a twin. She and I switch off asking our mom things like this. The way we decide is to do rock, paper, scissors, shoot, and whoever looses has to ask.
I asked our mom about bras in 5th grade (which she was fine with), and then Rosie (my twin) had to ask about shaving. Our mom said yes, and she just gave us money to go get it ourselves. I guess she used to this though, because we have an older sister and she grew up having 3 younger sisters who came to her about this stuff.
I think that in a couple of months I'm gonna ask my little (11 years old) sister if she wants to shave bwcause the hair on her legs is really dark, and I feel bad for her!
Farhana- I'm so sorry that your mom said no! Did you ask her about if you could use something like Nair or Veet? Maybe she's just concerned about you using a razor.
When I asked about shaving, I had to ask my dad, because I was at his house for 2 months and it was gonna be summer so i needed to ask before I went off to camp (I didn't want to be the ONLY girl at sleep over camp WITHOUT a razor).
So I said to my dad, 'hey, dad do you think you could take me to the store to get something for camp?' he said, 'well, what do you need?' so I told him, 'I was thinking I could get some shaving things' but of course, he was totally clueless. so he chuckled and said, 'what do you need those for?'
Fortunately, my sister who is a year younger than me came into the room (after hearing the convo) and put her legs on his lap and said, 'dad, she wants to shave her legs and so do I!' he looked kind of shocked but agreed to take us (and now we each get a $25 a month allowance from him for "girl things" like shaving stuff, pads, tampons, bras). That was when i was 12 by the way, and my sister was 11
I don't know how old you are and that's good to keep things in general...I know I was in 5th grade when I started shaving... I know it bothered me too. "All the girls in my sunday school class wear pantyhose", I was open and honest with my mom on how I felt.
I will tell you this.....once you start....you have to keep it up and it's not a glamorous thing! :)
My younger daughter looked young for her age and I just told her when she was in 5th grade that she too could shave, but that she should wait until 6th and she did....none of her friends gave her a hard time and it worked out great for her.
That being said....don't always try to fit in the crowd, but if it really bothers you...sit down with your mom and be honest and respect her final decision.
As far as the previous poster who is eleven.....it is NEVER good to tell your mom a lie...you will wind up losing so much trust...we know more than you think...and that's much worse than not being able to shave your legs.
If that is what you did....please tell her you are sorry!
I rec'd an email from someone, but she is no longer registered to reply back...I was not referring to you...sorry, but on active topics when this first was posted there was another 11 year old who was tempted to lie. Sorry for the confusion, but I guess they never posted her feedback.
I guess this is really a response to all the people sympathetically discouraging young girls to want to start shaving now, when later in life shaving will become a hassle and a chore.
I have to point out that it's not true that you have to "keep shaving" for the rest of your life. I remember being, I don't know, 11, and begging my mom to let me shave. She let me, and since I both wanted and probably needed to shave, (fluffy clouds and ponies) everything was happy and wonderful and great. At least that's how I remember it. Now I'm 27 and I hate shaving. So I don't. Let it grow. It will turn soft again. You only really have to shave in your life when A) you're doing it for you, or B) you're doing it for someone else. If a little girl, or anyone, would benefit from the self esteem booster of feeling pretty and having hairless legs, that's certainly a good reason to want to shave. If when you get a little older and you find you don't want or need your legs to be hairless for whatever reason, then that's fine too, in my book.
BUT! I also have to point out to any girls out there who haven't started shaving yet who are concerned that people might notice that their legs are hairy, I really and truly doubt that anyone even notices. I remember worrying about people noticing my leg hair at that age, and I remember wondering if people thought me having hairy legs meant I was somehow childish, but I don't remember ever noticing anybody else's leg hair. I don't ever remember thinking badly of any of the other girls for having leg hair, if they did. So, don't do it for them, because they're not really looking at you. They're busy worrying about what you think of them. Actually, a lot of things in life are that way, and they'll pretty much stay that way even when you're an adult. If you want to do it, please only want to do it for yourself. Sorry if that sounds hokey, but I wish someone had told me that when I was that age.
Next time you are in a store that sells razors with your mom, casually pick some up and ask your mom if you can start shaving.
Don't chicken out its not like she is gonna yell at you or hurt just for asking a question
I asked my mom ever since I was 8 and finally at age 11 she let me. Start by asking her when she first shaved her legs or say hey mom a girl in my grade started to shave her legs do you think it is to early
You should say mom don't yell at me but I want to no how to shave but if you are afraid just don't ask her.
Don't be scared if she says no it's a lifetime expireince.
Just ask your mom when she is in a good mood. Approach her casually
Honestly I have the same problem I'm 12 and im going to be doing a dance that we have to wear tank tops in and I'm so scared to ask my mum if I can start shaving because I have armpit hair but the thing is I don't want to I don't care but I'm worried about what it will look like
I'm 13 and I'm still scared to ask my mum to shave. I have a party to go to soon and my friends and crush will be there. I've asked my mum before and she said that I don't need to but it's been a couple of years now so do it when she is calm and not stressed. But don't beg and respect her decision( hope I've helped )
I was just like you. Except it was about deodorant. I kept chickening out too. If your school teacher has said anything about puberty you can always bring that into the conversation. What I said was "Mom my teacher has been talking about us getting older and how we might need deodorant for spring." The next day I found deodorant on my dresser! Don't be scared. Your mother was probably just like you once. When she had you she knew you'd be shaving a getting your period. Be brave and got for it!
Knowing from expierence I kept on chickening out so I put a sticky not in her bathroom asking her because there was no way of chickening out I started the next few days after.
Hi everyone, awhile ago my mom asked me if I wanted to start shaving, and I was so surprised I said no. Now Im actually sure I want to start shaving but I live with my dad so Im not exactly sure how to keep it up. Anyway, I can probably just tell him Im going to take a bath. But would it be a bad idea to ask my mom over text? Im not sure I want to do it face to face.
Okay P.S. I think I might start the conversation by asking how her day is going and then asking how old she was when she started shaving. Its a good idea because its more likely shell figure it out in her own rather than you saying it
Back again, I asked my mom and she told me to not start yet because its a pain, which I was totally not expecting and I thought she would ask me if I was thinking about it and reassure me I could start if I wanted to but no
If youre thinking about asking youre mom Im not saying this is going to happen to you so just ask
I just now (this minute) sent my mum a text saying mum, please can I shave my legs? x she replied saying yes just dont cut yourself
i was really scared to ask my mum and im really self consious of my hairy legs so after a few weeks of me trying to drop hints i asked her but she said no and i dont know what to do because i really cant deal with them i hate it but im too scared to ask again
I have a simular problem too I'm 12 and I really need to shave but my mom doesn't believe that people should shave their legs (I think). And I hate my legs. and my best friend has perfect legs and I'm super jealous of her.
Oof
I am almost 13 now, and I have wanted to shave my legs for about a year now. I just don't have the courage too. I keep reading all of these comments like here and stuff, but I just can't. Also talking to my mom just makes me nervous because she doesn't really talk to me about girly topics and all that. She also waxes, she doesn't shave.
Hope you have done it if you havent just do it she has probably been through similar feeling to you you feel so much better
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