Ways to Ask for Money Instead of Gifts?

Diane Eubanks

March 11, 20080 found this helpful

I attended a wedding reception/going away gathering. My Sister made a Money Tree for her Daughter. You decorate the tree according to the scheme of the party or gathering. You pin the money or envelopes on the tree with small craft clothes pins. You can be creative and paint the pins the color of the theme of the gathering.

Marty Dick
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March 11, 20080 found this helpful

If you want money instead of gifts to transport just say so. It will be decidedly easier to move money than an extra load of gifts in addition to your other belongings.

Karen

March 12, 20080 found this helpful

There is no way to ask for money that is not tacky but you can have friends pass the word for you.

susan
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March 13, 20080 found this helpful

There is no "cute" way to ask for money. If you do, you are going to look greedy, no matter how you choose to phrase it. The gift giver decides what to give, not the receiver. The best way would be for someone else to get the word out that you will be unable to take posessions with you, so a money tree, money box, or whatever will be available for monetary gifts, or to please limit all other gifts to small remembrances (pens, cuff links, etc).

If the gift is for you, I agree that it would be tacky to bluntly ask for money in lieu of gifts, BUT on the other hand a money tree is an IDEAL solution that a "hostess" could provide, where everyone attending would attach money/checks/gift cards to a small decorated tree that has small clothes pins or clips on the "branches" with which to attach the items. If there is an invitation being sent out, it could have something indicating that a money tree will be available (if you don't think they would understand the concept of money-tree, maybe put an artistic drawing of one!).
Best wishes! And have a safe and happy move!

I just want to thank every one for the advice.

Dear Honored Guest:

We sincerely hope that you will be able to attend our upcoming wedding on August 30, 2008 and we are looking forward to seeing you there and joining us to celebrate our union. While traditionally this occasion is usually marked with well wishes and wedding gifts, we would like to kindheartedly ask you to make a monetary contribution toward our honeymoon reservation in place of purchasing a wedding gift.