It seems like I've attended a few too many funerals lately and by that I mean too many people I know have passed away. After all is said and done and the loved one is buried, the relatives are still left hurting.
So they don't think their loved one has been forgotten, I mark my calendar to send a "thinking of you" card at the one year anniversary of their loved one's passing. It lets them know that their loved one hasn't been forgotten and neither have they. That first year can be the most difficult with the first holidays without their loved one, first birthday, first anniversary.
I'm a widow, so I know what it's like to have the first anniversary of a loved ones passing. You feel so alone. At least a card can perhaps send a little thoughtfulness and cheer on an other wise difficult day.
By Kathy from Sylvania, OH
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What a great gesture. Thanks for sharing.
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Yes, just a few words to let them know they are not forgotten is a wonderful gesture to take. A "Thinking of You" card is perfect.
I think that is one of the nicest things I have read in too long. That card or those cards might be the only acknowledgement that anyone remembers.
Kathy that is such a good idea. If I know someone well, I usually try to call
around the anniversary of the death. A card would be so nice. Being a widow for 14 months now I certainly have appreciated the thoughtfulness of others.
What a great idea that is, Kathy. I usually place a phone call near the anniversary date. I know the feeling - being a widow for 14 months you so much appreciate the thoughtfulness of others.
What a lovely thing to remind people to do! I never thought to have shared the idea before even though it's something I do for others. Here's what prompted me to start doing it:
It's a bit of a twist, and I know might sound like a strange thing to some, but I so very much appreciated it when others did this when my daddy passed away in August 1988. I told one of my friends that I had purchased a Happy Thanksgiving card for him and filled it out just as if he were still with me and placed it on the dining room table as if he were going to open it. My friend told other friends of ours and for the following year she and others sent a Christmas, Valentines, Easter and his Birthday card to me but addressed it as if to him.
They also didn't forget that last one addressed to me like you're sharing here with us about the anniversary of his passing.
That is a wonderful idea and one that I will put to use in the future.
I come from a community that has a tredition for the family and close freinds to help with the loss. each year for five yrats there is a dinner and a visit to the grave or the river.
What a wonderful and sweet thing to do, thanks for sharing.
At the end of this month it will be one year since I lost my dear husband of 50 years. I will purchase a large balloon (hopefully blue as his eyes were as blue as the bluest sky & so beautiful that even throughout all of those years I still melted when he looked @ me).
Thank you so much for posting the idea. When I became a widow, I felt so alone after the family had left and friends got on with their lives. I have remarried, but it still means so much to me when some one remembers me.
I think this idea is extraordinary!
My daughter died unexpectedly died 14 years ago at the age of 15. Nothing is worse than thinking your child has been forgotten.
There has been one consistent after all these years. Tori's best friend, Jessica always calls and we reminisce.
Oddly enough, my siblings never call, send a card or anything!
Any acknowledgement is heartwarming. With the technology we have today, there are lots of venues available to remember and to support a friend that while may show it, are still grieving.
Another idea may be this: so many obituaries now are posted through online access as well as traditional newspapers. Legacy is one that is used a lot. When someone passes and the family pays the local paper for an obit, Legacy usually leaves a page/guest book open for a short period of time so mourners,family, friends can leave a thought.
But this expires. If you Google the person who's passed on and " Legacy", though, the page will reappear. There's generally a note that asks if you'd like to make the guestbook permanent ( which requires usually a one-time variable charge). Someone might do that; if it's already been done, leaving a note on the guestbook for the death anniversary can also be of some comfort to the family--that people haven't forgotten the loved one or them.
Such a thoughtful, sweet & caring thing to do.
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