I really just wanted an opinion of other users on here: What do you do to keep from feeling lonely on Valentine's day (or as I like to call it, Single Awareness Day)? It's one of those days where I don't want to go out or anything so I don't have to see everyone else getting things from their sweethearts. I'm still single and I try to keep my chin up but it's hard, especially on days like this. Any opinions you'd like to share? Thanks much!
Stacey
This Valentine's Day, I am going to celebrate the love of myself! I am going to buy myself a rose, a bottle of my favorite wine, and watch one of my favorite movies. You need to do something special for yourself too, whether it is getting your nails done, taking a bubble bath, calling a few friends to go to the movies, whatever makes you feel special!
Don't feel bad about being single, you just haven't yet met the one you are meant to be with. Whatever you do, don't settle like I did because I was afraid to be alone. Ended up married and still being alone! Stacey, be proud of who you are, and love yourself, you are unique and there is no one else like you!
By Paula
Do you have any other single friends who you can share the misery with? I'm sure they feel the same way, and you could all mope together :) while watching both Bridget Jones movies.
By Sally
I love my hubby 11 years on Valentines's Day but trust me, some days I miss the days when it was just ME! My husband is my best friend so it feels like days instead of years. So enjoy your day and treat yourself to fun!
By Karri
If that is not possible, choose a few single friends and become their "secret sweetie". No, I don't mean trying to fool them into thinking they have a secret admirer, but more like a "secret santa" at Christmastime. Leave them little treats/cards/token gifts...and leave them guessing. You're liable to get so caught up in the excitement of it that you forget your own loneliness.
End the day by having dinner with some single friends. You're only lonely if you set yourself up to be.
By Jill
Hope you have a happy Valentine's Day and make someone else happy, too!
By bmd
Also, when it is your birthday (or Christmas) always buy yourself a present. That way you always get what you want... (wink)
By Carol
Not every religion celebrates this day, and the members manage to get through it just fine. Who knows, by next year this time, this will be nothing but a distant memory?Reflect on what you want in a special friend and then see if you are making yourself available to meet new people. I used to tell others to walk to school via a different path, go 'round the building in different directions. Hang around the cafeteria after school, work, . . .
By Holly
I quit seeing the 'bad boyfriend' and have now been married nearly ten years! I still like to ride on Valentine's day, it still makes me happy and I appreciate my husband for NOT making me feel bad, as well as remembering me in some good way each year!
By Gailanne
My point is to enjoy the single time you have regardless of your relationship status. it is your right and personal responsibility to yourself to do so. You are the only person in charge of your happiness. Couple-hood will find it's way to you at the appropriate time (not necessarily your time) and you might as well live life well today while you're waiting. I've also found that if you're in the market to attract a mate, nothing is more attractive to a potential mate than someone who is self-confident, self-fulfilled, and happy with their own current life. It was only when I adopted this above stated philosophy that I became less precoccupied (too busy/happy having fun with friends) that I found myself practically having to beat potential suitors off with a stick, metaphorically.
By Debbie in SC
You could join OKCupid.com. Its a free singles site but its more fun than the others. They have a lot of tests to take and all kinds of questions you can answer. Hey at the least, it takes up some of that boring alone time. Some of the tests are really fun too!
This is a little off topic but one year when I was in a relationship we had gone to dinner at a relatively inexpensive restuarant. There was an elderly gentleman dining alone and reading the paper. When my partner left the table to use the restroom I signalled the waitress to bring me the man's check which I then paid. I asked her not to say anything to him until he was ready to leave. It just left me with a really warm glow all nite, and still does.
If I think about it at all, it is to count my blessings. To me being single is like a being a kid on a Saturday morning with no school. It means freedom, and mastery over my own time and energy, and environment. I have not met the man I would exchange all those wonderful freedoms for, so I can't help but be happy with the status quo.
Not to minimize how it feels to be single when you'd prefer not to be, please try not to assign too much importance to Valentine's Day!
Just keep in mind that Valentine's Day is basically a "Hallmark Holiday," meaning that its original meaning has been blown way out of proportion by companies whose job it is to sell something and convince people that they need to buy it. It's all about making money. Nobody who loves anybody needs a special date assigned to remind one another that they are loved!
Lots of these happy couples you're seeing are just going through the Valentine's Day motions because they think they're supposed to. What really matters isn't what you see on February 14, it's what's going on the other 364 days a year. And while it isn't easy being alone, it's better than being with the wrong person! Hoping you meet the right one very soon!
