Double Birthday Party Dilemma?

carolyn

June 11, 20050 found this helpful

Emilee--maybe when you send out the party invitations you can say that it is a double party wiith a friend to share both birthdays and ask them to bring a little gift for a birthday wishing well(like a wedding) This way, you can give these gifts to the neighbors child in place of all the gifts your daughter will receive. This is an idea! As usual, men always put their foot in their mouths--if all else fails, let hubby fill the wishing well. Carolyn

You could invite your family at say 1:00 and open presents shortly thereafter, maybe even serve nlunch for them, -and have the other child and family invited for , say 3:00. Then do the shared cake and ice cream thing.

Lisa Rutkowski

June 11, 20050 found this helpful

Looking from another perspective, I think you are in shock. It's your daughters 2nd birthday and I'm sure she or the other little girl are'nt counting gifts? They probably will have fun just because it's a party? The 30 people comming-how many are kids? What ages? What types of gifts do they usually give? For years we had combinaton parties because two of my boys were born 1yr and three days apart and my sister in law had one in there too. So most Januarys we had one party for the three, sometimes her parents and relatives came and also mine.

I know you didn't mention this option, but at 2 the party is more for the adults. I have 4 children and they would have been overwhelmed by that many people there for them. Your daughter may be used to them, but I don't think the other child would have a good time with that many strangers.

I really wouldn't know what to do either! Actually I'd just back out. i go all out on birthdays and i think its all about the birthday kid that day so i wouldn't share....a not so close friend wanted to share a party with my 2 year old but i said no...because like you...we'd have 35 people and she'd have a couple coming. hmm....could you have a small party with the friend and invite the same number as her and then have a big family party??? otherwise just let people know from your side its a double party and i'm sure some people will bring her something small. hope everything works out well!

I would feel put out if someone asked me to bring a gift for another child at a double party if I didn't know the people.

Explain your dilemma to the other parents and get their input, especially if they are sharing the expense of the party. Tell them the truth, you were blindsided by your husband's behavior, are stressed and need their help.

Then tell your husband if he does this to you again he is on his own and you will not participate in something you had no input. Period! That was highly inconsiderate.

I've had the dilemma of a large number of guests before, and made two separate parties. One for my daughter's playmates only, and one for family.

You could level the playing field if you only have kids at the shared party. Say that you read, which is true (<:, that young children, esp toddlers should only have one guest plus their age: meaning three guests. If you want more, then fine, but fudge it. You may not have a choice about the shared party, but it doesn't have to be a major shindig. Save your family time and family friends for later.

This is definitely a difficult situation, but it might be a lot less stressful if you just let the party happen and let things work themselves out. The other parents probably won't be bothered that their child will have fewer presents and will be grateful for the opportunity to meet new people and have a good time. It's very sweet of you to be worried about their feelings, but they may not be as concerned by a lack of presents as you think they might. Good luck:)!

Me and my cousin are having our Sweet 16 together and we have no clue what to do. We are being kinda cheap and we want it to be sorta big so...any suggestion will be appreciated. Thanks oober muchly.